Wednesday, March 9, 2011

The years go by

Valentine day falls in the month of February.

A day when a single rose costs anything between Rs 20 to Rs 50
A day when all the eating joints are overbooked.
A day when the card shops are having a field day and the anti-Valentine groups are out on the streets doing their bit.


I know of a couple who celebrated their 56th wedding anniversary last December. I wonder if they did ever celebrate Valentine’s day in these 56 years.

They go about their daily chores of life with the help of each other.


They feel pain when others are in pain. They are in awe of the bloodless coup in Egypt. They are in touch with the present day world, but more than that they are in touch with each other.


The simple act of helping each other in stitching up the pillow is something exhilarating for them.




They may not have bought diamond rings for each other, but you can see the sparkle in her eyes when he sings a special song for her on her birthday.



They attend wedding ceremonies together and find it amusing that it is not done like this back home at Cochin (their home town)

At times they go out and try out the various cuisines or may be just the appam and stew at the south Indian eating house. “But my stew is better no?” and he meekly agrees to that.

They read the daily newspaper together and some times one of them dozes off with the consolation that the better half is close by 
 
 
Life goes on for them at their leisurely pace and they just give me a smile when I try to explain to them about Valentine’s day.

Update:
My cousin reminded me about the Vishwakarma episode about these two. You can read it here

48 comments:

Mrs Newlywed said...

wow! how beautiful!!!! True love at its best :)

A said...

Wow. Nicely done

Christine said...

This is true, pure love. And you capture it so beautifully!

Harman said...

Love it... captured very well...
this is love and togetherness!

Daisy said...

What a sweet post, Joe! I like this a lot. I think they already know all about Valentine's Day--or at least the emotion behind it. :-)

Jeannette said...

~precious couple and beautifully conceived and written~

Geeta said...

Simply beautiful!!!

Tomz said...

But Haddock, why are u making emotional people like me cry?

deep said...

:) lovely...
PS: i was already in love with that first pic.. and now this post!!

Christine said...

I can't stop reading and re-reading this. The Vishwakarma-explanation pictures would go very well into this post.

Smita said...

Ah! Even my maternal grand parents shared a similar bond!!! I guess for them every day is a valentines day :)

Sweet post!

Keats The Sunshine Girl said...

Sweet post - tender moments. Let the old folks show the way:))

Bikramjit said...

:) they are much better off then those who celbrate VALENTINES .. cause 14th february is once a year .. But for this couple it is EVERYDAY ..

no wonder they jsut smile when you try to tell them about 14th february ... :)


Bikram's

Jon said...

Lovely man very Lovely

Susan Deborah said...

Joe, this was so so so lovely to read. Amma and appa have grown with each other and the photos capture that glow so well.

I am feeling overwhelmed and joyous now.

Joy always,
Susan

rama said...

Beautiful , beautiful post!!
And it is very true with many of the couples. Good pictures too, very natural and gives a very good feeling. Thank you for sharing it with all of us.

Indrani said...

Touching and beautiful.Glad you shared, more glad they let you share. :)

Anjuli said...

Oh so beautiful- this brought tears to my eyes!!!! Who needs Valentine's day when you have this. :)

Margaret Cloud said...

This is beautiful tribute to this elderly couple. Thank you for coming by and have a nice Sunday.

Madhu said...

Wow, very touching :)

Joseph Pulikotil said...

Hello,

Wonderful post.Lovely photos. It is inspiring to read about this wonderful couple.
Joseph

magiceye said...

superb!!

dr.antony said...

That is living life in its true spirit !

Are they your grandparents? I guess so!
It is hard to find such a kind of attachment between married couples these days. My father never used to stay a single day anywhere,without my mother.When I was working at Trivandrum,he would come from Kottayam to visit me,but would go back by the evening bus. When I beg him to stay for the night,he would say
" Rosamma is alone"

Haddock said...

Thanks all for your comments and appreciation.
@ Tomz - promise, next time I will write serious stuff, no mushy mushy things to make you cry.
@Christine - Now I forgt what that Vishwakarma episode was. The fact is that every day in the evening when I am back from work I get to hear new things about them, either from the maid or from my wife or our son. I must make it a point to jot them down. Enough material for the whole year's blog quota.
@ Susan- Good to know that you felt overwhelmed and joyous. Will write more about them later.
@ Dr Antony- Good to hear about that "Rosamma is alone" No they are not my grand parents, but my in laws.

Mary said...

What a wonderful love story. Thank you for sharing it with us. Have a wonderful day. Blessings...Mary

Terry said...

dear mr.haddock..it has been so long since i have been here and oh!, what a delight to see these homey pictures and to read your words.
diamonds? big deal, eh when this little lady sees the bright glimmer of love in her sweetheart's eyes!..i just bet that it is an even bigger glimmer than when he first fell in love with her..
ha!..just look at her resting away and feeling so safe beside her soul mate and so unalone!!
god bless them with many more years mr. haddocl..with southern ontario love, terry



ps1 the picture of the beautiful face of this cameo lady brings back sweet memories to me.
years and years ago when i was just 18 and working in an old folk's hospital, there was a little lady living there who and i am not wanting to be mean...she had a wrinkled face and was not pretty at all she was about 90, and she was blind..
funny thing is though, she had a beautiful soul and all of us young nurses loved her so much..one day as we were gathered around her bed, chirping away to her, suddenly she said. "girls shh!!!.can you hear that sound?"..."nope!."
"well, listen!"....and then sure enough, we heard a steady tap! tap! tap!, coming down the hall....as the tap grew louder and louder, we gazed in surprise at the elderly lady's face....with each tap, grew less wrinklier and less wrinklier until the wrinkles had ALL disappeared and her face was as pretty as a girls...her blind eyes just sparkled in anticipation and then, there appeared in the doorway a really old man who had lovely white wavy hair.. with his cane in hand, he walked over to the lady, whose face not was not only no longer wrinkled and whose blue eyes were not only shining, but she had the biggest smile we had ever seen....and she said, "girls , THIS is my husband!"
oh mr. haddock, my heart is just burning with this memory.
the lady's love could not help but to beam through!...blind eyes for sure but a bright and shining soul!
it was like a sacred place, so each of us girls, walked quietly out of the room so that mrs. burton could be alone with her darling, even for the short half an hour of visiting hours that was left.

thanx for the memories mr. haddock

ps2..would you mind if i put your link on to my favourite links...that way i will not keep forgetting you!

Les rêves d'une boulangère (Brittany) said...

That is just adorable. They really have true love. What a wonderful thing to have.

Ps. Thank you for visiting and commenting my blog.

sangeeta said...

Beautiful...and thank you for sharing this.
valentine's day is for those who have yet to understand the deeper meaning of the eternal feeling.

Came here after along time and read all your posts i had missed in one go...

We all want to grow old like this..

Shalet Jimmy said...

Oh Haddock....Wonderful post...I wanted to write a lot but....loved it.

Mary said...

Haddock, I'm popping back in to answer your question regarding the tapenade. It is not particularly healthful. It is high in sodium and fat, though it could be argued that it is a "good" fat. It is very flavorful and is wonderful when used as a condiment. I hope you have a great day. Blessings...Mary

Anita said...

You have managed to capture in your photos what true love is really all about.

Kiran Bajaj Sawhney said...

Bravo!! What a lovely post.
The best ever written for Valentine day. They are soooo cute.

Lata said...

Joe,really beautifully written and you have captured the right moments too.....I am sure all of us will be hoping to be like them as we grow older.

Anahita said...

wonderful!

Kay said...

Thanks so much for visiting. It's such a pleasure to meet a blogger from another country. This is such a lovely post. It gave me a very happy smile for the middle of the week.

Patty said...

Thanks for your visit and comment. What a lovely story and photos. This coming July 12th. my husband and I will celebrate our 56th. Anniversary. We have five children (four daughters and one son) and five Grandchildren
(three Grandsons and two Granddaughters). We haven't exchanged a Valentine on Valentines day in years. For us it's just a waste of money, we don't need a card to know we still love one another.

Positive Thoughts said...

See the power of positive thinking within you. God bless you.

Canyon Girl said...

This touched my heart. Thank you for the reminder of what is important in life. And thank you for visiting my blog.--Inger

Laura (Bandida Blog) said...

Hey Haddock,
Great blog and great post! Love always gets me all worked up, it's such a beautiful thing.
Thank you for stopping by bandida blog!
P.S. I enjoyed jiving to your audio link!

shooting star said...

grt post...and so very true....golden years are best for romance!!....my mum is missing my Dad so much at this stage of her life.....

devangini said...

It is great how they embrace romance in the most raw and pure form!

This is the kind that is lost in the plactic, cementic jungle.

God bless their love!

Well rendered!

Alka Gurha said...

I am kicking myself for missing it....pics say it all....Simply BEAUTIFUL.
love is not about flowers or chocolates on one day.

Chic 'n Cheap Living said...

What a lovely story of a tried and true life partnership!

Thanks for stopping by and hope to see you again! Have a great week!

xoxo,
Chic 'n Cheap Living

LDH said...

Wonderful post! A very dear couple that speak volumes of what real love looks like! Lasting love :)

Denise | Chez Danisse said...

A real love story.

Sneo said...

your parents or gramps?

Haddock said...

Neither...... my in laws :-)

Casuarina said...

Totally awe-inspiring...